Some relationships stop working, and both parties are able to understand why the relationship is over. The breakup can be amicable, and the two people move forward in their lives. In the case of a relationship with a toxic person, the behaviors and treatment you received that were harmful during the relationship will often get more intense as you try to end things. A therapist can help you identify strategies to establish boundaries and to learn how to cope with the treatment you may still be getting because you have to parent your children together. If everything you do is always wrong, and it feels like you are walking on eggshells to please your former partner, it's time to work with a therapist.
Establishing Better Boundaries
Most toxic people love it when their partner is an empathetic, honest, and open person. If they are a narcissist, for example, they will find partners who will shower them with praise and understanding. Your relationship may have been filled with times where you were pushed away, only to be reeled back in again. Once you make the decision that the relationship is over, you have to set your boundaries. If you don't have children, there's no need for further discussion, and it's time to avoid all contact with this person.
Learning From Your Mistakes
People tend to attract the same types of people into their lives until they make changes to their own behavior. If you take the time to look back at the relationship that didn't work with a toxic person, you will be better able to see what to watch out for in a new relationship. People have patterns, and if you find yourself always going after the same type of person without success, it's time to reevaluate your situation and learn from your past.
Work With a Professional
A therapist is there to provide you with professional support as you go through your breakup and the aftermath with a toxic person. You will have someone to vent to, and a person who understands what is going on from an educated standpoint. Your friends may be supportive, but a therapist is there to guide you through the breakup and move forward.
Counseling is highly beneficial when you are trying to work through a difficult relationship. Learn from your history and grow as a person when you work with a therapist in your area.
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