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How To Effectively Resolve Conflict In Marriage
Rebecca Pena
If you and your spouse fight all the time and really want to stop, you will need to both agree to learn how to handle conflict properly. In addition, you will both have to be willing to use the right methods for this. If you can both agree to those terms, you will be able to successfully and effectively overcome the obstacles you are currently struggling with. One method you can use for this is called collaborative conflict resolution, and this method involves the following steps:
- Choose the right attitude – Both spouses must have an attitude that they care about the other person and want to resolve the issue. Selfish attitudes will prevent you from resolving the conflicts you have. You must have an attitude that you want the problem fixed and the marriage better.
- Agree there is a problem – In marriage, if one person has a problem, the marriage has a problem. Both spouses need to be able to agree to this if you want to solve the conflict you are experiencing. If one spouse does not feel the issue is a problem, he or she will have no interest in solving it.
- Talk about it – Without yelling, fighting, or screaming, you must be able to talk about the problem. This should involve allowing both spouses to state their feelings, thoughts, and opinions.
- Use empathy – Empathy is something vital to marriages. It is the attitude where you try to visualize what your spouse is feeling and thinking, and it allows you to put yourself in that person's shoes.
- Agree on a solution – Marriage is about give and take, which means you must be willing to compromise. A conflict will never be resolved if you and your spouse never come up with a mutual agreement on how to solve it. There may be times when you feel like you are giving in more than your spouse, but there may also be times when it is the other way around. The goal is to make sure the solution is something you can both agree with, live with, and abide by.
If you can put these steps into practice, there is a good chance your marriage could greatly improve. If you need additional help for the problems you are experiencing, consider visiting a marriage counselor in your area like Advantage Psychological Center Inc. This is a great way to learn more tips and strategies for stopping conflict in your marriage.
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Hey everyone, my name is Lori Grffin. When my son was born, I was completely unprepared for the difficulties of raising a sensory deprived child. The stress of trying to parent a difficult child definitely takes its toll. Eventually, I had a nervous breakdown and ended up enrolling in individual counseling sessions. The counseling appointments helped me work through the emotions generated while coping with fits and meltdowns from my son. I emerged from each session better prepared to provide my son with the support he needed. I also learned how to pay attention to how I was feeling during the process. I created this site because I want to share the benefits parents receive from going to counseling sessions. Thank you.